Why CAKEd?
(yes it's free)

I am a technology visitor (and I'm proud to be one!). Would I be better with modern day dating if I were more technologically savvy? Unsure. Why? Because the issues underlying modern dating isn't just about technology and disconnection.

The internet, dating apps, Tik Tok, IG didn't create the bad habits we readily engage with in online dating behaviors. At some point, we began to normalize and accept swiping, ghosting, orbiting, catfishing, etc. as ok behavior. It is us, the people, who choose to stop treating others kindness, empathy and transparency.

Now, it's time to make technology work for us. Let's make a better place by providing a more human connection to technological advancements so we can have our cake and eat it too.

Changing the Narrative...

Learn about the basic, underlying social psychology principles we are using to return back to connecting within the humanness in ourselves and with to each other.

We starting by setting different social norms to the dating game. CAKEd's principles lay within believing in the goodwill and best in people.

kindness

empathy

transparency

Belief in Ourselves and Others...

Did you know that when students sign a pledge in a take-home test promising not to cheat, then the likelihood of cheating significantly decreases? CAKEd uses this same principles, but we aim to promote prosocial behaviors with intention.

We hope you will only join this community if you genuinely connect with our values. Maybe you will discover a few new things about yourself too!

Do Your Values Align with CAKEd?

____I like the idea of online dating with kindness, empathy and transparency

____I'm burnt out from online dating and it's making me a bit disillusioned

____I super dislike the poor social etiquette and bizarreness of the online dating world

____Current online dating norms don't vibe with my personal values

____My experiences of online dating has become another task to add onto my already overflowing plate

Self-Selection

Based on YOUR honesty policy, you are pledging to join a "dating pool" of likeminded people who share the same values of treating one another with KINDNESS, EMPATHY and TRANSPARENCY and willing to follow the Best Etiquette Guidelines (it's not that bad... really).

Learn More About Yourself!

Find more information about compassion research being conducted at Stanford. Discover more about character strengths and how values systems shape YOU with Dr. Martin Seligman. Read more about Dr. Kristin Neff and her work on self-compassion and radical self-compassion... or find the most up-to-date information on character striving (and how to apply to dating).

Why CAKEd? (yes it's free)